Living with a narcissist 

The first time talking to a narcissist is just the same as talking to anyone else.

They are masters of illusion, and it's not the fun magic illusion.

It's sneaky,  manipulative and nasty, they act like anyone else, talk to you so nicely and treat you how you should be treated.

If it is more than friendship, they will do a thing called "Love Bombing", they make you feel like you're the only one in their world, it will feel like you have met your soulmate, they'll say impulsive things like "it's you and I against the world", "you have saved me".

This will last a couple of months, just so they feel like you have fallen for them completely, you would do whatever it takes to be in their lives, to make them happy.

Now that you have whole heartedly come into their lives, this is when the narcissist will do just enough to keep you sticking around, but also make you question your own beliefs, opinions, sanity and whatever else.

You try and call them out on things but just like physical abusers, they blame you for their behaviour, they do it so severely that you start to question yourself- "did I actually say the wrong thing"? "Maybe that was wrong of me", then you apologise for upsetting the narcissist, even though you actually haven't done anything wrong.

The next stage for the narcissist, is to completely isolate you from people who would be very close to you, so family members and friends, maybe even colleagues.

They will do anything to make this happen, they'll take control of your mobile phone, from social media, text messages and calls- asking who people are on your friends list, who is commenting and messaging you on social media, who is texting and calling you.

When you make plans to spend time with family, they will make you feel bad for doing so, they'll do anything to make you not spend time with other people, they'll tell you how much they don't trust the people you know, they'll even tell you that they're jealous of other people- yet it's still your fault.

The narcissist will even move you 1000's of kilometres away, making you believe that it's for a "fresh start", to build your lives together, and you go because you will do anything for them because you believe that this is your life now.