Want to know a secret? Silence is powerful.
Reading the book "Tame your tongue" added great knowledge and wisdom into my life. The book teaches us how to use the right words in the right season.
One thing that triggers our tongue is our EMOTIONS. And this is common to, us, women. We grew in a place where women is said to be really emotional, nagger and demanding of a lot of things and in the end, if we do these, we are the ones who suffer most. As time pass by, we may seem to think that women are getting wiser and wiser but in the eyes of men, we are getting weaker and weaker and that is also the reason why a lot of men doesn't go into a relationship nowadays and it is easy for them to let go even if there is a child or children attached(just a reason to some). Same as when people give too much attention to negative things said to them, where they can just see it as something they can learn from or something to stay away from and sometimes, IT DOESN'T REALLY NEED A REACTION FROM YOU.
People give too much judgements to people who are in need of help. If you are really a blessed and strong person, then you should be helping the weaker ones. Understanding them first is the greatest thing that we can do. (We'll focus on that in my next article)
Men are really made to be strong physically and it is just in their nature to get whatever it is that is given to them so if you show that you are to be treated in a certain way, they will treat you that way. They communicate through actions and that is how they understand the world, that is how they respond to anything. They only use words if they want to get something. People, especially men, may use LIES, BUT PEOPLE ALWAYS SHOW THE TRUTH THROUGH ACTIONS (Observe). So if you want someone to treat you right, show him/her that you are not a public property through your clothes, gestures, and by setting your own priorities and goals. They will never change through your demands and talking. You also have to deal with it through your actions.
Some men are also blamed for not controlling themselves, rape, looking, etc. But they were made that way for us women to treat ourselves better, God created us with purpose so let us choose what is best for us(read Proverbs). We, women, have the power to control our emotions, if we just choose to. Being wise is good but BEING IN CONTROL will not let us have that fear of LOVE and it will not limit us in finding what makes us happy.
Show your standards, communicate through actions, give attention to your own actions and correct them if needed, be your own best so you won't be afraid to focus on helping rather than finding faults and demanding perfection.
Being wise may lead you somewhere but will give you limits about anything, wherein being in control will always lead you to happiness and real success. If it is not that important, let it pass, don't ruin your WHOLE day just because your boyfriend didn't talk to you the way you want to or if you spent 3 hours on traffic or if your customer has bad attitude, etc.
Your only problem is yourself, be thankful and always focus on solutions.
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